FIVE (5) SIGNS THAT TELLS YOU YOUR MARRIAGE IS AT IT'S END

A man and a woman usually gets together, get married for love, happiness and to raise a family. While it is a beautiful and wonderful for some, it's simply a nightmarish experience to some. There are usually many evident signs that pin-points the end to a marriage. Though, most times it's a hard fact to face or swallow, even when you know that things are not just working any better. Many couples tend to overlook these problems. And while this may be noble, it is not always practical or realistic. Partners should be able to logically, reasonably and peacefully work through all barriers together as one as it is intended to be by natural law. The five (5) signs in these article should be able or it's intended to help you, if possible handle problems in your marriage or relationships. It could well help you to decide your future and happiness. The five (5) signs are:

YOU EXPECT A CHANGE FROM YOUR PARTNER
Usually you are expected to know your partner very well before you choose to commit your trust, happiness and love in marriage. But there comes a time you expect to see changes from certain disturbing behavior, especially the strange ones you just start to noticed like excessive drinking, late-night keeping, careless and hurtful comments, shabby treatments, snubbing and shunning etc. While they may change or not, forcing or waiting for them to change may be unrealistic, frustrating and deeply painful. You can not force a person to change, they only have to make sincere effort to change. Your friendly and sincere gesture to help them sometimes may be taken wrongly and it is you who gets hurt in the process. At these times be prepared for the worst. However, when you want to commit yourself to another person, you must be ready to believe in the person that exist in the real world and not the one that exist in your world of fantasy. By this way if you have any doubt or hesitation about such a person, reconsider and think twice.

YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED
This can include sex, affection, kissing, compliments, money or religion. If one of these things are not right in your current marriage, it is a major issue, especially if you need it to be happy. Take seriously about anything that is making you unsatisfied. That problem need to be addressed and ironed out for your marriage to move on. And whereby your partner is unwilling to listen or receive counseling on this subject, then take this another major sign. This sign is blatantly evident and needs to be resolved otherwise it will seriously deal a damaging blow to your marriage. Ideally both of you should seek true counseling to see if either or both of you wants the marriage to work or not before calling it quits.

YOU ARE FIGHTING ALL THE TIME
If you are constantly quarreling, scuffing, swearing, cursing, hauling sofas and other dangerous objects at each now and then and this has gone on for many years without any reasonable and peaceful resolution, then it is a more glaring sign that things will never get any better. Anger is a bad emotion to cook and carry about in the stomach. It affects not only you and your partner but, any child or children be involved at that point in time. This problem also affects your work, friends and extended families. Nursing anger and bitterness against your spouse affects everything that you say and do. It affects how you think, feel and treat your neighbor. It affects majorly your immediate family, especially your innocent kids who do not deserve psychological pains as a result of the endless battles. This sign is like ticking time bomb waiting to go off if not resolved squarely by immediate separation when nothing else can help after intense and deep hatred.

YOU DON'T WANT TO BE CLOSE
Wanting to be far away from your partner all the time and as much as possible is another major sign that your marriage is heading for the rocks. It shows clearly how bad you must be feeling. Couples are meant to be together, as much as possible all the time, as partners for life and not otherwise. Sometimes questions must be asked. Why should you be with somebody and yet you can not be at ease, happy and have fun with them (your spouse)? If your marriage or relationship is in this kind of turbulence, then it is a worthy question to seriously consider. When your partner has lost interest in spending quality time with you, it's a sure sign it is all over. There is problem if your are forced to enjoy your partner. There is problem if you are constantly having a feeling of being shut out of your spouse's life. Definitely parting is imminent and around the corner.

YOU HAVE THE INCREASING URGE TO OTHERWISE DO HARMFUL THINGS
There comes sometimes that it is so bad in marriages and relationships that couples are forced to do things that are detrimental to their faith, beliefs, morals, sense of good judgment, or safety. Wishing evil to befall your partner or your spouse not ready to risk anything for you is a pointer that both of you are working out on your earlier vows. Ordinarily it's a normal act to see couples believing in and laying their lives for their loved ones and vice versa. If such kind of feeling is not in mutual terms, then you should rethink if your partner actually loves you or just simply wish you bad and perhaps wants you out of the way. Always remember the fact that everybody deserves love, happiness and respect and once you feel you can no longer give or guarantee them, then it's time to leave. Common sense tells us that life is very enjoyable if we are happy and contented. And it should be that way. Risking ones life for the promise of proving love can only be dangerous and costly in the end. Remember also that to love, honor and respect goes both ways and whereby this becomes a constant frictions, seek ways to resolve them and if you can not get headway through counseling and other means, then it's time to reconsider your commitment for the sake of your children and happiness.